Cancer Survivors Share Their Best Advice

We asked our Facebook followers a simple question:

We were touched by how much was shared. What follows is the advice given by cancer survivors from all walks of life. We believe that the best advice comes from those who have been there. Without further adieu, here's what the experts had to say:


 

  • “Absolutely know you will be okay. Get up each day, get dressed (no hanging around in PJ's), put make up on and a pretty headcover. Walk tall. I took more care with my appearance when I was having chemo, than every before. It paid off - it actually made me feel better. You will get through this - and be better for it." ~Jo-Ann M.

 

  • “Remember you are number one. Keep your attitude positive. Trust in your faith (GOD). family and friends. Get plenty of rest and eat healthy.” ~ Corinne S.

 

  • “When your hair starts to fall out, get it buzzed but then be sure to wear a cap of some sort because all of those short hairs are still going to come out, and they itch like you had a haircut without a cape...” ~Laurie D.

 

  • “Have a fun wig. Mine was red and named it Trixie, she only went to chemo. Have a soft fleece sleep cap to sleep in. I still find comfort in it.” ~Suzette C.

 

  • “It's okay to feel sad or scared but remember that you can turn to family, friends and the breast cancer site for encouragement. Good luck and blessings on your journey…and if you need coverings for your head, I recommend headcovers.com, they rock the hats and scarves.” ~ Kathleen R.

 

  • “Resolve to get through it. Take it one day at a time. Don't look at it as 6 mo. Or whatever length you need. Ask questions. Research. Be good to yourself. Have faith and God bless you.” ~Ernestine W.

 

  • “It probably won't be easy and there are times when you want to give up. But remember you have the power to overcome and I am sure you will.” ~Ann S.

 

  • “Remember the journey may seem uphill at times, but keep that light at the end of the tunnel in sight.” ~Vickie H.

 

  • “Drink plenty of fluids, get lots of rest. You will go thru days where you feel like you have had enough, but just push thru! Cry and scream if you need to just remember it will be over in no time! Keep smiling!” ~Cathy S.

 

  • “Take care of yourself and don't worry about anyone else.” ~Chris B.

 

  • “The one thing I tell folks getting ready to start chemo is the one thing I never expected. Losing my hair was one of the MOST painful experiences I had. Not because I was afraid of losing my hair and what I would look like, but because it was really painful. I thought at first there was something wrong with me, until one day while staying at a Hope Lodge I found a small book that shared everything I was experiencing. Just knowing I was "normal" at a time when everyday was so far from that, made losing my hair suddenly less scary. I haven't met anyone else who had a similar experience, but I do share mine whenever asked, "What was it like?"’ ~Jeannette G.

 

  • “Keep a positive attitude, listen to what your oncology team advises and keep in prayer. I had chemo once a week for 12 weeks and God was very gracious. Except for some tummy issues and losing my hair, I really had no horrible side effects. I have wonderful friends and family who saw me through this part of this unexpected journey and throughout treatment I never lost my smile or sense of humor. I'm here and alive and plan on being around for many years to come!!” ~Ellen F.

 

  • “I divided my treatment times in half in my mind. I needed 16 treatments so getting to 8 meant I was halfway, 4 was a quarter of the way etc. It made the time go by more quickly for me. Be kind to yourself and reward yourself with something as a treat every now and again.” ~Lisa W.

 

  • “All of the advise given here is right on target. Please make sure to drink plenty of fluids. I could not and ended up having to go back and get iv fluids to get hydrated. And that's ok too but let them know. You need to flush the chemo out with lots if fluids. If you need to take Neulasta the day after chemo as I did (to keep your white blood cell count up), you may have bone pain after the shot. Many women I know took Claritin after the shot and it helped them but it did not help me. Hot baths or a heating pad helped me. Be sure to ALWAYS ask your Onc if you can take ANYTHING! Good luck to you. It goes by really fast warrior. I had breast cancer and I joined a site / group and it saved my emotional life. Reach out to someone who has been there and done that. Nobody else can understand it except those who have experienced it first hand. Sending you warm heartfelt healing prayers. You got this!” ~Roseanne P.

 

  • “Preparation helps; if finances allow, get the house ready with items you may need. If you have internet, etc you may want to open an account with grocery delivery, open a pay pal account for secure online shopping. You may want to change your pharmacy to one closest to your home, preferably one that offers delivery. Ask trusted neighbors if they know of reliable, affordable pet care services in case of emergency; preferably someone your neighbors may have used. Get your haircut shorter before you start chemo to transition and ease shock before you lose hair. Depending on insurance plan you may be entitled to a free wig but some excellent wigs are reasonably priced. If possible, choose one before you begin treatment. Best wishes to you!" ~Jen G.

 

  • “I don't know how anybody does this without Jesus. Our relationship with Him really carried us through those 7 months. Good nutrition; plenty of rest; exercise was key to burning off stress and anxiety in addition to staying strong; and KEEP IT POSITIVE. KLOVE radio is great for fostering that positive focus! Headcovers.com was a BLESSING! My daughter felt more attractive again. I pulled up the website, sat her down, and said, "Go shopping. Get whatever you want." She loved that she could shop through a zillion choices to match all of her college fashions! And other women at the treatment clinic were raving about how pretty she looked and asked for the website. The next treatment day, multiple women were sporting beautiful new scarves! Headcovers.com was AMAZING with customer service and returns.” ~Peach F.

 

  • “For me hats feel better ! Even without hair Your still you... just do what feels best for you and live each day to its fullest. Have fun with it.” ~Phyllis S.

 

  • “Faith, family and friends! Drink plenty of water to flush your system of the chemo drugs. I took a prescribed anti-nausea drug, helped immensely...that being said, it caused other tummy woes so, be aware. Get lots of rest, stay positive, eat healthy and live! Cancer is not a death sentence, it's just a bump in the road.” ~Gay S.

 

  • “Take care of you. Rest. Don't give up. The bad days will get better. If you work keep working. STAY POSITIVE!!! And God will be with you every step of the way.” ~Cindy K.

 

  • "If GOD brings you to it, HE will see you through it. Listen to your body. It will require lots of rest and whatever nutrition you can tolerate. Real ginger is a natural remedy for nausea and acid reflux. Canada Dry ginger ale only one with real ginger. I found the taste better from the cans but poured into a plastic cup. Don’t eat or drink from any metal to avoid metallic taste. Talk to your doctor about ANY side effects. They're not mind readers. My bloodwork never indicated I was in treatments. My body said differently. They have a pharmacy at their disposal and can help with anything. I'm 4 months post-chemo (24 treatments over 26 weeks) and the joint pain is my biggest complaint. It may never go away. 
    And yes Headcovers.com is awesome. I have every color of the knit caps that tie behind the head. I can reuse them under my motorcycle helmet!
    God bless. Be strong you're not alone!" ~Kimberly P.

 

  • “Just starting my second go 'round with chemo. Things I learned to do this time: 1. Have a dr you trust and treats your cancer specifically. My first onc had never seen an ERMS care, My new onc treats 3-6 a year. Trusting your Dr is vital.  2. Call your dr office if ANYTHING is unusual or if you have questions. That is why they are there. Constipation, diarrhea, severe anxiety, pain.....they need to know. Don't wait for your next appt, CALL. 3. As soon as I knew I was getting chemo I cut my mid back length curly hair down to stubble. I wanted something to control and my hair was it. I also involved my kids in the process.  4. I have three styles of headcovers. The first is a crocheted hat my mom made without a pattern. Any color I wanted, she made. Second, I have three tie-back syles from headcovers.com. I love them. Third, handmade scrub hats from a friend so I could have a Michigan State one as I treat at U of M. LOL. Do what's right for your head. I'm not a wig or scarf person.  5. Drink fluids!!!! My last session of my first round landed me in the hospital even with hydration. Listen to your body.  6. Ask for help. Beating cancer is your new super hero job. Everything else can be done by someone else. I struggle with this a lot. But I've learned to let go a little at a time." ~Andrea S. 

 

  • “Don't try to do it on your own. Reach out to your friends and family. Scarves are amazing. Remember u r still beautiful.” ~ Penny D.

 

  • “My doctors told me to stay hydrated with lots of water to flush the chemo out. However, due to the nausea, they said eat whatever I could tolerate. Lots of crackers, health boost shakes from any local juice places like Jamba Juice. As much protein and veggies as you can. Whole Foods has ginger candies that are my lifeline still and my last chemo was in March.” ~Penny C.

 

  • “Give it to God.” ~Elaine H.

 

  • “Have lots of fun with hats. Put on make up and show a beautiful face to the world. Let them know you're a cancer fighter, not a cancer victim! (And follow the advice above as well, particularly about calling your doctor for any symptoms and keeping hydrated.)" ~Suzanne M.

 

  • “Get a second opinion and be sure you have a good oncologist. My first oncologist nearly cost me my life. Didn't pay attention to my PET scan that instead of just having Stage 1 lung cancer I actually have stage 4 metastatic lung cancer to the colon. I lived with this for 6 months before I switched Dr's and she found it right away. Yes I was told had I not had a healthy heart I would have/should have died. I was thrilled to finally start chemo and kill the cancer! Be ok with your bald self... you are saving your life. Embrace it!” ~Jacqueline T.

 

  • “Ignore all the well meaning stupid stuff people are going to say to you. Don't push yourself, rest, and continue with light exercise.” ~Lauren B.

 

  • “My mom found that using plastic silverware instead of metal helped her food not have a metallic/distorted taste.” ~Nicole B.

 

  • “Look into a raw vegetable diet. I've had 4 family members on my and my husband's side of the family survived cancer with this diet. They was also observed by a cancer specialist that promoted the diet.” ~Erica H.

 

  • “Being with my daughter, as she bravely went through her journey of radiation and chemo, all the previous suggestions are spot on. Find something to focus your attention on, be it music, a show, books on tape, or whatever you're interested in. It helps. Try, as hard as it might be, to stay hydrated, it's very important, along with letting others do things for you. It's not a sign of weakness, for many, it takes much strength to allow others to help us. Your friends/family need to help. You need to conserve energy. It works out, later, when you're better, you can help them with something!” ~Nancy P.

 

  • “Rest when you need to, but move when you can. Drink all the time.” ~Patty M.

 

  • “Smile…it helps you feel better...ice pops also.” ~Sylvia N.

 

  • “A lot of very good advise here. Reaching out to survivors and others that are where you are now is so important. I did not know anyone that had been there. I didn't realize how many wonderful women there are willing to talk and help you. So all I had was my family and only a few of them. Of course you want your family but they had no idea what I was going thru. When the chemo got me clear down, no energy, could not eat then I didn't bother to call friends because I didn't have the energy to care so talk to your friends before you start to ask them to come see you no matter how you feel. My sister came every week. Those were wonderful highlights. She always brightened up my day.” ~Teresa G.

 

  • “Stay positive take care of yourself eat as clean as you possibly can trust me when I say that losing hair will be the very least of your concerns have faith surround yourself with positive people get rid of all and any negativity in your life. As a survivor, I had to be my own advocate. A strong support system helps. There ARE good days ahead.” ~Lauren M.

 

  • “No matter how bad and hard it seems, you will get through it when you have hope!” ~Fabiola L.

 

  • “When you start you should have a positive attitude. Also ask God for strength and that his will to be done. Then you need to have an input in all your treatment. Make you own decisions on all things from treatment to what to wear if you lose your hair. Everyone is different.” ~Theresa M.

 

  • “Rest, stay hydrated, eat what your body will tolerate, have someone you can talk to (or see about a therapist) cause you will have those days where you just want to give up and seems like you can't go on, cry, laugh, for a while I was so angry thinking why me what did I do. Just know in the end you will get through this it's just a chapter in your life you will be able to look back and say I did this. It's tough but you'll be ok.” ~Leslie M.

 

  • “Have faith stay positive eat right rest often. Get your hair cut. I did the Molly Cyrus look. Shaved it all except the top. Less devastating than having it fall out around third treatment. Pray a lot. Have real friends with real support. Good luck.” ~Teresa P.

 

  • “I agree on head covers. Most cancer centers have free wigs and baby soft beanies. Or you can go completely without. Just take special care if you're out in the sun. Also take special care of your mouth. Good luck and many prayers coming your way.” ~Brenda O.

 

  • “Start taking nausea meds asap! Take them every 4 to 6 hours. Set your alarm. Sure helped me get through it! Best of everything to you!” ~Dell S.

 

  • “Even though it is hard, looking at your hair falling out, it is a good thing...it means that those chemotherapy drugs are working!! They are killing those bad fast multiplying cells (cancer cells) but your hair is also a fast multiplying cell. It is just collateral damage on the way to healing you. It is the one physical sign that you can see that the drugs are doing what they should. Hang in there...it will come back.” ~Becky M.

 

  • “A lot of great advice! Faith has carried me through my 1st and 2nd round of cancer. I don't mind being bald but the period of time when it was falling out (2 wks after 1st treatment) was the rough time for both me and my family. I've embraced bald now and made it fun. I do cope a lot with humour. One piece of advice...being bald tends to make a person colder than usual so be prepared with some type of head covering. Pretty, funky or whatever you enjoy, have fun being creative. Also, my head was and somewhat still is sensitive so use baby shampoo and gentle things on your head. It’s not uncommon to develop irritations during chemo so ask Dr's advice. I had problems with my heels and doc said to use Bag Balm on my feet.” ~Dian Q.

 

  • “I recommend you cut it very very short or even clipper cut it when it starts to fall out. I got tired of having to unplug the shower drain and I even tried all those different strainer/covers for the drain.” ~Louise J.

 

  • “ There's so much good advice here. Mine is take it one day at a time. It's very daunting and frightening to think of weeks or months of treatment. Just take it one day...some will be better than others. Allow friends and family to help you. It is a blessing to the giver and to you. Be proactive regarding your care. Research, ask questions, be sure you have a doctor you like and trust. Every day brings you closer to the completion of treatment. Cut your hair and be mentally prepared when the rest comes out. It's ok...it will grow back. I loved the scarves from Headcovers. Keep the faith...you will survive this and you WILL live to enjoy life again! I am 5 years out so I know! Blessings to you.” ~Ernestine W.

 

Additional Resources:

10 Tips for Getting Through Chemotherapy

Why Does Cancer Cause Hair Loss?

Chemo & Hair Loss: A Complete Guide

Hair Loss During Treatments: Money Saving Tips

Tips to Help Your Loved One Cope with Hair Loss

 


 

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22 thoughts on “Cancer Survivors Share Their Best Advice”

  • emily bennette
    emily bennette June 28, 2016 at 3:50 pm

    I like what you said about how you should wear a hair covering so you can stay warm. It seems like it would be a good idea to try to do things that will make your life easier. It does seem like it would be the idea to look into different places to get chemo treatments if you are having a hard time going to your normal hospital.

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  • Carole B

    A diagnosis of cancer is the most gut wrenching thing that can happen to you. But a positive mind and attitude will get you through. Take control and have your head shaved if you start to loose your hair. Go for walks every day. I had complications and admitted to hospital several times during my three months chemo, plus the radiotherapy knocked the 'stuffing' out of my breast! I found that having small targets/milestones each day pulled me through. One being to get dressed and made-up; as its such a temptation to have pj days - but when the need arises then indulge yourself. Go for walks and engage in conversations. Include small treats/rewards, such as visiting a nearby coffee shop for a drink and piece of cake, because here I was able to chat with others and feel normal. Celebrate milestones such as quarter, half way through etc. I adopted the wearing of hats instead of a wig so it made the transition from brown straight hair to grey curly so much less of a shock. It also boosted my self esteem as the hats bought so many compliments such that I may continue to wear them. I found a selection to compliment my outfits from Headcovers, I even combined a few scarves and turbans to get a different look. Mix and match. If you look good you feel good.

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  • This post was really amazing. I hope that more people will have time to read this article and share this to everyone especially for teens and students that are having this kind of problem and help themselves fight this kind of illness.

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    • Sandi

      Today was my last day of radiation! Having gone through 4 round of chemo, 30 days of lung radiation, and 10 days of brain radiation.
      Stay positive, pray to your God, ask others for help when you need it.
      There will be good days and bad days, but every day, I thanked God for another day.
      Even on my worst days! I showered, dressed and put makeup on. It made ME feel better. It's all about you now. Do what you want to do, do what makes you happy, take every day as a gift.
      Most of all, drink plenty of water and moisturize, moisturize, moisturize!
      PS so many compliments on the wigs, scarves and hats that I purchased from Headcovers.
      May Gods grace shine upon you.

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  • Sandi

    Today was my last day of radiation! Having gone through 4 round of chemo, 30 days of lung radiation, and 10 days of brain radiation.
    Stay positive, pray to your God, ask others for help when you need it.
    There will be good days and bad days, but every day, I thanked God for another day.
    Even on my worst days! I showered, dressed and put makeup on. It made ME feel better. It's all about you now. Do what you want to do, do what makes you happy, take every day as a gift.
    Most of all, drink plenty of water and moisturize, moisturize, moisturize!
    PS so many compliments on the wigs, scarves and hats that I purchased from Headcovers.
    May Gods grace shine upon you.

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  • Teresa

    Learn to read and listen to what your body tells you. Let it guide you every day. Already mentioned - but my philosophy in life - is the importance of the positive attitude,,,even if you have to lie once in awhile - it picks you up!
    Now isn't the time to try to be Superwoman,,,,get help and accept it.

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  • Eileen Kelly

    All of these brave ladies have given very good advice. It's a difficult journey for sure, good days and bad days, but focusing on the positive will get you through a lot. Growing up my father always told me that no matter what things could always be worse. Those words have gotten me through some difficult times including my journey with uterine and ovarian cancer. But you come out the other end with a huge sense of accomplishment and a special kinship with other survivors that you never knew before. A huge part of it for me was losing my hair, eyebrows and eyelashes....losing the leg hair and armpit hair was a bonus though, none of us miss THAT, LOL!! I had bangs my whole life so looking in the mirror and not seeing them really upset me. I ordered a fringe from Headcovers and was over the moon with it!! Also here in Canada there's a program called " Look Good, Feel Better" offered to cancer patients which is a 2 hour session on how to apply makeup.....I especially found the eye make up very helpful. Youtube is also a wonderful source of " How to" videos when it comes to tying scarves and applying make up as well. I promise you, you WILL through trial and error find your own way and what works best for YOU! It is INDEED a journey! Bless !

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  • Bonnie L.

    Consider the cancer diagnosis as a "bump" in the road of your life. You can either stumble and fall on the bump or jump right over it. Do what you have to do. Follow your doctors' advice and pamper yourself in the process. Don't let the diagnosis rule you. Rule it! I was lucky to have had little if any side effects from chemo. After my last treatment, I developed neuropathy. Could be worse! I will handle it. Radiation went well for the most part. I am now taking the "after" pill. So far so good. Hair is coming back, All in all it was a period of 10 months that I was in treatment and/or surgery. I look forward to the next cancer free months ahead! You can make it through!!!

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  • Laurie W

    Find a doctor you trust, and then tell them everything and listen to what they say - fighting cancer is their life's work, and they want you to win. If you don't feel that from them, find another doctor. It's a battle for your life, and mindset and determination can absolutely make the difference. You need winners and those who will never give up on your side. Listen to what your body is telling you and surround yourself with positive people. If you have to, discontinue relationships with those who see the downside rather than the upside - the last thing you need to hear is how many people someone knows who died from cancer when you are battling it! Remind yourself that this is a bump in the road, not a dead-end street, and all the small sacrifices like hair loss and nausea and etc. are tradeoffs for life - it's all small potatoes when weighed against that. I couldn't drink plain water or room temperature drinks during chemo, so I experimented - fizzy water mixed with a little cherry limeade flavoring over chipped ice did the trick for me. Find your tricks - eat what you can eat and don't worry about calories or fat or whatever - try to stick with real food like meat and veggies and fruit, but eat what you can - if you eat nothing but ham and mangos for three days, at least you could eat something. Get up and move whenever you can, and if you're tired, take a nap. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks or says - do what you need.

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  • Mary Saputo

    Excellent, consistent advice has been shared by those who know.
    In Vietnam Agent Orange was used and it defoliated the planet. I dubbed chemo Agent Black because it defoliates your body. That being said, I believe all life challenges are resolved by 3 F's & 2 R's. Faith, Family, & Friends. Reflection (get inside your head, resolve what this disease means to you, your life, and how you'll deal and defeat it), and Rest. Give your body as much time as you're able to repair and restore itself.
    Listen to your body, it will tell you what it needs be it rest, food, fluids. Give in to it's needs as much as you're able.
    Cut yourself some slack. There will be times when you're angry, depressed. That's all right from time to time, but PLEASE don't let those emotions drive you. You'll find you have a core of strength and courage you were unaware of. Remember the old cliche-when the going gets "tuff" the tough get going. I survived "Agent Black," so will you. Mary S.

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  • Tandy Elisala

    There is lots of great advice here. As a four-time cancer thriver, my best advice includes:
    1. Know, feel and believe that you are stronger than cancer. You have the power within to heal.
    2. Focus only on your needs. At this time in your life, radical self-care is crucial.
    3. Stay hydrated as best you can and only eat that which nourishes your body.
    4. Practice LOVE, not fear.
    5. Be grounded in your big WHY for life. This will help you get through anything.
    6. Have faith and trust that God/Source/Universe/Creator is and will help you.

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  • Barb

    Getting a cancer diagnosis is devastating - give yourself some time to be angry, grieve, and come to terms with it, then move on and get ready for the fight. Don't let your mind wander to dark places, it's not helpful. STAY POSITIVE, I won't lie that sometimes this takes real effort, and know that you'll beat this. Take advantage of the times that you feel good (you will have those times) and do what makes you happy; dance, exercise, socialize, whatever. Hair is trivial - people love you with or without it, and it will come back. You've got bigger things to focus on. I loved the cute hats from headcovers, and that's what I wore to work and everywhere. I was humbled by how kind people were/are. People want to help, so accept it and let them. I agree with all the nutritional advice above so nothing to add, but emphasize lots of protein and fresh fruits/veggies as you're able. Look at this as a new lease on life and take the best care of your mind and body going forward. You are strong and you are a fighter - don't forget that!! My diagnosis was 4/14/17 and already I've had surgery, 6 rounds of chemo, and finished radiation on 1/3/18. In hindsight it flew by. I still receive a targeted therapy and hormone therapy, but the roughest times are over. You may feel a little down once all your treatment is over, I wasn't prepared for that, but it's normal and will get better. You'll find strength you never knew you had, trust me on that. Cancer is a hurdle in your life, but does not define you. I'm pulling for all of you, take care.

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  • Dianne

    I'm a survivor! My goal is to stay positive and be around to watch my 5 grandchildren grow up. In 2016, I survived an eight and a half operation for pancreatic cancer which has left me with Type 1 Diabeties.
    In 2017 I was diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer Stage 3.
    The treatment was 9 weeks of Chemo, 6 hour operation followed up with 9 more weeks of Chemo. Of the 18 weeks of chemo I have only been able to have 7 treatments so far due to my body being weak from prior operation and diabeties. I have 4 more Chemo treatments to go. I will get through this. I try to stay positive, enjoy and tresure my family and friends and I'm looking forward to a cruise when all is clear!
    STAY POSITIVE... LOVE THE ONES THAT LOVE YOU!

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  • Arizona Grandma
    Arizona Grandma April 21, 2018 at 11:14 am

    When friends and family offer help, let them know what you need and want. My daughter-in-law cleans my house every Monday (her idea) which is the nicest thing anyone can do for me. I'm able to rest and recover in a nice clean home. Other family members run errands and do laundry to give my husband a break. They feel good about helping and we so appreciate their assistance.

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  • Lillian Schaeffer
    Lillian Schaeffer July 5, 2018 at 9:34 am

    Thanks for the reminder that although feeling sad is okay, there are people you can turn to for help. My sister just found out that she has cancer, and I want to help support her in any way that I can. I'll make sure to help her feel validated in everything that she's feeling, but I'll also be sure to gently remind her that there are people who love her all around and that she can turn to them for help.

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  • Patty ? Grindle
    Patty ? Grindle August 5, 2018 at 6:18 am

    All these comments are very helpful. ?❤️
    I had ovarian (4# tumor/cyst R side & 3# on L side) stage 2, & uterine Ca stage 1. Surgery Dec.2017 to get out gallbladder/umbilical hernia repair & that is when Dr found my tumors. No prior testing showed this. If you hav signs/symptoms of stomach bloating , nausea, pain & difficulty eating ; go get a Pap smear test & to gynecologist for eval. I went to Dr /surgeon & had mult tests done , but it showed gallbladder issues.
    I had biopsies done & Dr said they were clear 1st surgery. I had to wait 1mos to see specialist & that is when I heard the words “ you have an80% chance of ovarian Ca from Ca125 Bld test”. I about fell in the floor/shocked; but I touched my husband’s shld & God helped me hold it together!! I had to listen to much info from my Dr. I miraculously had surgery next day,Jan 9,2018. God worked this out for me ,after mult obstacles confronted me. I found out I had Ca when I woke up & my spouse was crying. I had a calm , peace come over me & told him it would be ok. My best advice to anyone going through Ca, is have a good spiritual base, read /listen to positive things, have friends/family to text/call /visit w you when needed, let others in & help you, drink liquids/water & get IV fluids after chemo Rx as needed, try to eat protein & take vitamins to keep your immune system up, be mobile & stay busy to help days go by , take 1day at a time & count down your tx’s( chemo was 6 sessions & radiation 5 for me). This really helps & 3 of my close friends had been through this crazy stuff: so great advice should be welcome. I thing I said daily , no matter how bad it got was; “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”, my sweet friend did this too & gave me good advice. Your support system is critical to help you through process. I worked the whole time , it was very difficult, but I know having a reason to get up everyday, apply makeup, wig , or turban & smile helped me make it . I hope you find your peace & wish all God’s blessing to our new lives.

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  • Clara logan

    diagnosis of cancer is a life-shattering thing and coming to terms with reality is so painful for the person and also the caretaker. Getting the right support system is crucial for surviving cancer

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  • LouAnn Warnock

    Long battle but short in time as we are all going threw some type of tumor on the bright side we are not alone, from me thank you for your stories I can feel deep thoughts all of each one of you, my case was an early stage the lord thank you, I do have a support group at home that are the best with care and loving thoughts and some that are going threw the same family and friends are the best I love them all, day by day smile after smile laughter after laughter, with love we can gain all and ladies and gentlemen stay strong and let the ones in I did.. Yes we got this yes yes yes

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  • Rick Jones

    I have a huge question, my wife has stage 4 metastatised non small cell lung cancer. Between the drugs prescribed and mid swings it is very hard to get a bead on her actual mood. I know she's so terrified, as I am as well but I can not pass her wall she has built to talk to her. I need help please, I don't like being a punching bag, and I'm the only one in our family that cares. Any advice will be highly appreciated thank you.

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    • Annie Murphy

      I had Stage III Metastatic Small Cell Lung Cancer. I went through 4 Rounds of Chemo and was told I was clear but then had 33 days of Radiation. I just finished on 1/2/2019. I had another CT Scan on my chest and pelvis and an MRI on my brain. I see my Oncologist tomorrow.

      My poor son was in your position and was like you call yourself "a punching bag". He was my main source of being able to just let loose with. He was also my rock!!! I don't know why I did it, maybe because I know he loves me that much. I sure don't know what I'd have done without him. My daughter pushed me away when I told her about the Cancer. Wht? I don't know. Self preservation I suppose. But, we don't talk.

      I did have a Social Worker that would talk with me at the beginning of each Round of Chemo, plus I have a couple of girlfriends I've had for 50+ yrs. I talked with them on the phone a lot. But, yes, it was my son that heard the real me. The tears, frustration, talk of pre-arranging my funeral. The whole gambit. I certainly prayed a lot and started to keep a journal but found I couldn't keep up with it. I was just too tired. Maybe if you jsu sit next to her, hold her hand in silence if you think that may be the best. It is terrifying going through this trip. I know my cancer will be back just because of the type it is and the life expectancy isn't very long even with treatments. I know I drank Ensure Plus.. when I could get something down. Have to keep some strength up and most definitely pray. I have a little tip for when her head starts getting itchy when her hair starts growing back and it's itchy, Witch Hazel! Saturate a cotton ball and put it all over her head. She'll love you for it! It takes the itch away immediately. Have you talked with any Social Workers yourself? Most Cancer Centers or wherever your wife is getting treatments have an Outreach Program for family members, maybe you can look into that. You may get some really good advice.

      Best of luck Rick, I'll keep you and your wife in my prayers. Try to stay strong for her, even though it's tearing you up, she needs you more than you'll ever know right now. May God Bless. ~Annie

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  • Daphne Estes

    Keep a positive outlook. If you have negative people around you, you have to lay down the law. Be assertive. I found the best thing for me the following week after chemo was to walk and do yoga. I had a fantastic chair yoga class, no getting down on the floor. The exercise really helped with the feeling of fatigue. The more you lay around, the more you lay around!

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